I haven't been around forums long enough to share the same experiences that some commenters have here. I'm seeing claims that this has been an ongoing subject for you, Gracie. The way I see it, commenters who aren't sugar-coating their opinions are challenging you to do something different. Just as MisterShmiley mentioned, without taking action to stop our bullies will make it seem okay.
An example of that may be trying to block or ignore bullies permanently, rather than blocking/unblocking them every time things have cooled down. Again, it's just an example and I really don't know if you already take blocking and ignoring seriously.
I'm not close with you Gracie, I clearly can't solve someone else's problem but I can make examples/suggestions. At some point we all have to look at ourselves to see what we can do to resolve or ease our own issues, because it isn't enough to tell people to stop.